The five enemies of communication in the couple
You never noticed? Sometimes the discussions in the couple are very difficult ... sometimes it's normal because we talk about "sensitive subjects" and then this discussion can quickly ignite. Among the subjects of dispute, there money, sex, beautiful family, children, ... These issues, we agree, they almost always cause conflict.
But sometimes, there are discussions that have no reason to cause increases in voice, sulking, misunderstandings.
In these cases it is not the subject that causes the conflict but five other criteria that I will expose you.
1. One of you is angry.
It is impossible to have a discussion with someone who is angry. Before starting a discussion, look at your partner. Try to understand, to help him manage his anger or let him be the time to calm down. Although the discussion is important, it is not the place nor the time to talk.
On the reverse, if it is you who are angry. Take some of you, time to tell your spouse, with the most gentle possible (to avoid any misunderstanding, he / she may take it as an assault) you are not able to discuss . Offer to discuss a little later, the time that you resume your minds.
2. One of you is tired.
The typical case is when you get home from work. If you are tired or you will not be concentrated in the discussion or you will be irritable. As reporter at another time the subject of discussion.
3. One of you is depressed
Sometimes it was a "big change of course." Life seems difficult or impossible. Dramas may have occurred during the day without your spouse's knowledge. You do not even talk to him. What is certain is that if your spouse is trying to communicate, it is likely to face a wall of silence. The feeling of misunderstanding can quickly be born in the other.
4. You are in a noisy environment
There are better places than others for discussion. The crowded conditions such as supermarkets are not included. Find a place to chat. If you want to talk about trivial things nothing forbids you to speak in this place. But if you want to talk about serious things, choose a quiet place that exudes confidence.
One last tip: turn off the TV! It makes a noise for nothing and captivates your attention. Television is public enemy number of communication in the couple!
5. One of you is hungry
This may seem surprising but when you're hungry, we are much less receptive when verbal exchange. As chat over a meal or full stomach. Not too full because you may have a change of course and find yourself in the situation # 2! ;)